8/15/08

Why do people talk back to one another?

I just love that I found this new blog page at wildlandfirefighterwives.blogspot.com!
Below is a copy of a blog posted today on this woman's yearning to hear her hubbies voice!
When our husbands are out on assignment they have limited time to phone home to chat. Sometimes their cellphones have no signal due to the rough terrain and high mtn peaks. Everyonce in a while the fire camp has satellite phones the guys use to call home. So imagine two or three satellite phones to a group of 100 to 200 hotshots. They only get 4 to 5 mins each. If that at all. Most of the guys are sooo tired they dont wanna bother with the long line, so they skip the phone and head to their tent.

I know DC, at times, forgets the showers so he can get more shut eye in his sleeping bag.

Every blog entry Ive read at the above mentioned site could have been written by ME! Thats how true and close to home this womans life is to mine. Only exception, she has dogs and I have a four year old daughter.

FYI: second soccer game tonight and it was great! Starting the soccer program off from nothing was very tiresome and mind grueling. If you know me I stress about every little detail. I am on our team's second newletter, I held a parent mtg, required team management officers. etc etc etc. Usually I provide water only in the water cooler but today I thought it be nice to supply thw kids with gatorade. I also bought two huge bags of oranges, cut and bagged them. My stress is limited so far because I finally have parents committed to bringing snacks on different days. I have been stuck with snack duty for the past two weeks and Im soo finished. Dont have snack duty again until the last week of soccer. Oct 1 thru 4th. Yea! I think DC was getting tired of spending money.

The league requires we have soccer practice once a week with one game at the end of the week. Most of the parents wanted more practice and voted we add another practice time. SOOO that leaves me with two days of practice---so exhausted and one game per week. UGH!
All in all, its been the most fun Ive had in the past few yrs outside of the house. Better than stampin up events. So cant complain that much. Except that it wears me out tremendously, esp. with the heat. Im sweating out there and getting alot of exercise, so by 3rd qtr My blood sugar levels are REAL low and I need some food. If I dont get something in my system I get shacky, sweating more, dizzy, etc. So thats why I added the gatorade and oranges. Healthy for me too. They both have just the right amount of carbs that it gives me enough pick me up to last till we travel home for dinner. Thank heaven.

Preschool Board meetings are constant. Rhyans the trouble child at school. Not a good thing for me. Trying not to let the embarrasment get to me. If I do thats when I take it out on her more.
So trying very hard to keep my anger level down. Today she screamed and kicked all the way home (14 miles). Exhausted and worn out from crying she could barely talk when we walked in the door. This time I ignored her hoping to take the advice from "experts" on tv. It made me feel horrible. I cried all the way home too. Im at a real loss with this child. I dont know what to do anymore short of slapping her crazy. I know I dont want to go there!

So I ignored the situation - different from what I usually do. I usually yell back at her and threaten up and down. Then talk over her head about what she should be doing. Hasnt seemed to work. If anything its aggravated the situation thus far. I thought I was being a good parent. I stay home - Im attentive to her. What more? I ask what am I doing wrong. So please Lord help me.

I will have to tell you all later what exactly happened and what I did.

The other day, weds, to be exact when she vamped out on me at the soccer field. I asked her why she was doing this and acting in such a manner, she replied, I miss daddy!

I thought okay thats it! I counted and he had been gone for 17 days so far. ugh! Tomorrow is his 14th day and then he gets demobed. THEN, we have to wait for three more days for them to drive home. Thats how long its gonna take them - I just know it. Wish it was sooner - but what can you do, right?

So more will have to be typed later. Its 11:19pm and I need to get her to bed. Shes in bed but I know shes waiting for me to lay by her to fall asleep. That was another of my concerns with her devilish attitude lately. Sleep habits. So as of last night I decided I would get her in the bath by 7pm and in bed for readin by 8pm and light out at 8:30pm. Right now and as of two years ago, the routine has been - bath atleast by 8 / 9pm , then books and lights out by 10pm. But now school starts at 830am. Last year the school started at 9am. So big changed we have to make.
I have to get her up atleast by 7am, to eat (such a slow eater and picky) teeth brushed, dressed and a few cartoons (to make her happy) and out the door by 8am. Takes 15 minutes to drive to school. So hoping to get her signed in and saying goodbye by 8:35am. This week was the first week back to school and we signed in all week at 9:15am. Ugh!

Everyday is such a struggle with her. My entire day revolves around waking her up, feeding her lunch, giving her milk (so she doesnt turn into a demon), napped, evg activity (tap dance/ballet/tumbling/soccer/music class - which ever we may be enrolled in that week), bath, milk and complete tired REM!!!! I have to time to do anything grown up related. In between all this I have to strategically plan out all the activities so things run smoothly. If not, well, lets just hope that day gets to THAT point. But when it does ... oh man..... rhy and I can dook it out pretty well. Ugh! So tired of fightin' with this lil' girl. I sure miss my sweet lil' girl. Where did she go and will I get her back?!?!?

Posted 8/15/08 by wildlandfirefighterwives.blogspot.com
4 minutes left
Okay, I can remember when my father (retired CDF Captain) would call home from a fire camp phone with only a certain amount of time to talk. Not much time, when you have a lot to talk about. Well, thankfully we have advanced into a new era where we can talk to our husbands on cell phones for unlimited time. My husband is currently on a fire where his crew has been "spiked out" and I haven't talked to him since last Friday evening, late and for a brief time since he was tired. So I have not had any phone calls and am anxiously awaiting his call at any moment. Yesterday afternoon I had a meeting for work, so I took my cell phone knowing that if he called I could step out and talk to him. My phone recieved a few calls from my friends, which I ignored. However, two numbers showed up and I didn't recognize the area code, so I ignored them, too. (If you remember due to the house flood we are still at my parents home) When I got home, my mom said "Did you get to talk to him? He called here twice and also tried your cell phone. She told him that I would be bummed since I missed his call. I was in fact sad when I heard he called and I ignored the call. He had called me from a phone in fire camp, since cell coverage was zero there. That explains the area code phone call I recieved. So I carried my cell phone closely yesterday afternoon in hopes that he'd call again. My mom said he told her he was headed back out to spike camp and didn't know when he'd be able to call back. I had to hold on to hope!! As the hours went by, it was obvious that he wasn't going to call. Last night around 10:45 mom's house phone rang. I jumped up and ran to where her phone was, it was him!! They had come back into camp to restock on supplies so they could head out again today. While we were chatting, he told me "we only have 4 minutes left" because I'm on a fire camp phone. Now that brought some old memories back!! We hurried and talked quickly. He asked me "well anything else" um as quickly as I could think, nothing popped in my mind. So with a "well see you later and I love you" we hung up. (We never say "good-bye" because that sounds so permanent, we only say "see you later") As I layed in bed, happy to hear his voice I did remember something important I needed to ask him. Oh well, I guess I will have to wait for the next 10 minute phone call, when that will be I don't know
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